…You just can’t do it all at once.
My intention at the beginning of this year was to focus on “being” rather than “becoming.” It’s worked a treat.
Committing to this intention has allowed time to slow down — back to how it felt before I became aware of smartphones, social media, and Netflix. In being present, I’ve also felt immense gratitude for all the little things that contribute to the tapestry of my life, and have felt less pressure to be more, do more, or have more.
Today I want to share with you another simple philosophy that has been guiding me of late: you can do everything, you just can’t do it all at once.
For the past seven years, I’ve been fortunate enough to spend a lot of time focused on myself. I’ve created my online business, worked in amazing Pilates studios, filmed international fitness videos, explored the world, focused on my health, stayed connected with my family, made new friends, and shared a beautiful marriage with Nate.
But that’s all about to change…
Because in just seven weeks, I become a mother.
So it begs the question — can I be a mother and still move forward in my career, strengthen my marriage, travel the world, improve my health, gain financial independence, have a buzzing social calendar, and maintain a tidy house?
Can I be a NEW mother and do all of those things at the same time?
To focus on what matters at this moment in my life, I will need to “temporarily shelve” many other things that have previously been a priority. To do right by my marriage, my baby, and my health, the rest will have to take a backseat.
And while it brings up some nerves, this idea of doing less and slowing down and letting go, it also feels like the right choice in this season of my life.
The Seasons Of Life
A few years ago, I heard someone describe their life as a series of seasons, rather than years. I liked that. They told me that some seasons are for sowing, others for growing, some are for harvesting, and others are for resting.
In nature, you plant a seed and help it grow; once mature, you harvest a crop, and then you let the earth rest — when a field lies fallow, the soil regains nutrients that are sucked up by over-planting.
In life, we see the same flow.
- There are seasons for planting —this is a time when you’ll learn new skills, develop new habits, and have new experiences. The planting stage won’t always earn you much recognition or remuneration, but you’re gaining invaluable experience and establishing the roots for future success.
- Other seasons are for growing — this might be when your career is going gangbusters, and your momentum seems unstoppable. In this phase, you’ll say “yes” to a lot of opportunities and ride the waves of success, but perhaps at the expense of spending quality time with family and friends, or taking personal time for self-care.
- After growth, it’s time to harvest — you have reaped the financial, physical or emotional reward for your effort, which means you can take your foot off the gas pedal and bask in well-deserved delights.
- And finally, there is a season of life for rest — just as the soil need times to regenerate after harvest, you also need time to recuperate and reflect on what has transpired, before gearing up and sowing your next round of seeds.
These seasons represent the cycle of our life from birth to death. From sowing the seeds that helped us walk and talk, to retiring after a decades-long career.
But within these seasons, we also experience micro-seasons; during a biological age of harvest, you may also need to plant or rest.
In recent years, my life has been a steady season of growth with micro-seasons of harvesting the rewards. Shortly the leaves will turn, and I will start sowing the seeds of motherhood, taking rest from some other areas of life.
I couldn’t do it all at once and maintain my health, sanity, and zest for life. Because, just as we can’t plant a seed and harvest its crop on the same day, we also can’t simultaneously learn and excel, or push and rest.
What’s Your Season?
By knowing your season, you can make the decisions that are most suitable for your health, happiness, and lifestyle, at this very moment. You can choose where to focus your energy and what to ignore. And you can make these decisions in the comfort of knowing that, just as every year has its autumn and its spring, there will be a time in the future for you to focus on planting, growing, harvesting or resting.
So, I’d like to ask:
- What season of life are you in today?
- What does it require of you?
- And what could you release, to bring more attention to the things that matter now?
It was an enormous weight off my shoulders to realize that I CAN do everything, but that I CAN’T do it all at once, and I hope you feel the same.
If you’d like to share your thoughts about this idea, I’d love to hear them, so please leave a comment below!
Your seasonal friend,