Look in the mirror.
What do you see?
A beautiful, caring, insightful individual?
Someone who knows herself?
A woman comfortable where she is, despite knowing where she wants to go?
We sit on the threshold of a new decade — a realization that took me by surprise earlier this week.
Of course, I’ve known that December 2019 is coming to an end and what follows is a new year…
But what caught me off guard is the decade-ness of it all (and the fact that 2020 seems like something straight out of The Jetsons).
It’s made me consider how women around the world are feeling during this time of transition…
How YOU are feeling.
Because, when you consider the regular New Year, New You bull sneeze and couple it with the significance of shifting decades, it can become a recipe for self love sabotage.
We live in a noisy world.
The soundtrack to daily life is a clamor of opinions, suggestions, feedback, betterment, and criticism; our minds bounce like ping pong balls at a 6th-grade birthday party; our devices beep, buzz, ring, tap, interrupt and interfere.
We consume more than we create, absorb more than we advise, and outsource our thoughts, results and decision making.
And at times of significant global change — which we are in up to our navels with climate change, politics, and yes, the beginning of a new era — these habits can lead you to question your own validity.
Every new year I write to you and implore that you avoid negative marketing, the calls to better yourself, the pressure to do more rather than simply experience being more.
And this year is no different.
Instead of self-improvement, look to self-reflection.
When you look in that mirror, who do you see?
Clarify your opinions on topics that matter to you: climate, religion, politics, nutrition, friendship, rom-com or true crime, crunchy or smooth peanut butter…
And get equally clear on what you DON’T value.
Silence the noise for just a little while — an hour, a day, a week, a month — and consider your values and what makes your world meaningful.
Decide how you’ll take action on things you can control and release those you can’t.
Unfollow, unfriend and unsubscribe from any virtual relationship you have that sit at odds with these discoveries.
This has been my journey in recent months, so let me be the first to say that it’s not easy to sit with your stuff, get clear on your values and not run away when things feel tough.
It’s a slog, but it’s a necessary one.
In the words of Seneca: easy choices, hard life. Hard choices, easy life.
Today may be the sixth day of the last month in the decade, but it’s also just today, in all its normalcy and glory.
Life is too short and your time on earth is too important to not be who you are and live in a way that feels true to you — not just during the big moments but all the small ones in between.
Look in the mirror, silence the noise, reflect, reframe, rejoice.
As always, let me know how it goes.