I hear a lot of “failure” talk in my coaching business. Women will come to me after another failed attempt to lose weight. Another failed attempt to stick to a diet. Another failed attempt to strike a work-life balance.
Which got me thinking about the concept of success and failure and why it could be the way in which we set goals that are making us feel so inadequate.
The standard way to set a goal is to think about the desired outcome and then take specific actions to get there. This process is strategic and intellectual, but if it doesn’t take into consideration our human emotions and desires and lifestyle habits, it simply won’t be effective.
When we have a laser focus on want we want to achieve, we can easily overlook one of the most important aspects of success — will I enjoy the process of getting there?
You will be much more likely to reach a goal — and maintain your results — when you can find joy in the journey.
Take weight loss as an example. Counting calories, eliminating food groups or doing exercises classes that you hate is not going to motivate you to follow through on a weight loss goal. If anything, it will demoralize you, feed into that cycle of negative self-talk, and cause you to hate on the whole concept of healthy living.
But when you choose to lose weight in a way that’s healthy, rewarding, and even pleasurable…well, then you’ve set yourself up for success.
How To Follow Through And Reach Your Goals
STEP ONE: Instead of thinking about something you’d like to achieve and asking how do I get there, start by asking why.
- Why do I want to get to reach that goal?
- Why do I want to make that change?
- Why does this really matter to me?
STEP TWO: Once you’ve found this “why”, brainstorm the most realistic, sustainable, and enjoyable actions that you can take to reach that goal. Doing it this way will allow you to make decisions and take actions that feel right for you and your lifestyle, and when something feels right, you’ll more likely keep doing it.
STEP THREE: Stop on this journey to congratulate yourself for changes made, and make sure that you’re still moving in the right direction.
STEP FOUR: Most importantly, be grateful for what you have and what you can achieve; life is about the journey, not the destination, after all.
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